Valentine’s Day – Don’t forget YOU

Our therapists in Orem know that Valentine’s Day can be a challenging time for some individuals, as it can amplify feelings of loneliness, isolation, and anxiety. Here are some tips to manage your mental health during this holiday:

-Set Realistic Expectations: Your expectations of grand gestures and movie-worthy dates can lead to disappointment if they only exist in your head. If you are in a relationship, remember that your partner can’t read your mind and communicate what’s most important to you. Even if your partner decides to plan a surprise, try to stay open to new experiences rather than fantasizing about one ideal scenario. Avoid comparing your relationship or life to idealized portrayals in the media. If you’re spending the day “unattached”, try practicing mindfulness and staying in the present moment to make the most of the day. Focus on the “here and now” by practicing grounding techniques, such as listing everything you can see, touch, hear, smell or taste to stay connected to the day and and enjoy quality time with whomever you’re with, even if it’s yourself:)

-Recognize your triggers: Consider if Valentine’s Day triggers any negative emotions or memories, such as past breakups, relationship issues, or loss. Identify any societal pressures or expectations that may contribute to stress or anxiety. You may find it helpful to take a break from social media that day if you’re concerned other’s experiences of the day may trigger you to feel less than or unworthy. Always remember that a person’s social media page is often their “highlight reel,” never showing the full story, and usually finding the best parts of their life to show the world.

-Practice Self-Care: Celebrate your most important relationship – the one you have with yourself! The relationship you have with yourself will be your longest relationship in life, so it’s important to treat yourself well. If you are not spending Valentine’s Day with a significant other, plan your own night. Think about what reenergizes you. Engage in activities that promote relaxation and well-being such as an at home spa day, spending time in nature, or meditation. Buy yourself chocolates or flowers. Set boundaries and avoid feeling obligated to participate in activities that do not show love to yourself. Give yourself permission to feel differently about the holiday. Not everyone enjoys Valentine’s Day. It’s perfectly acceptable to skip the holiday or celebrate it in your own way. Self-love is vital to mental wellbeing and helps reduce symptoms of depression and anxiety. In fact, according to the MHFA curriculum, those who pay attention to their own physical and emotional health adapt to change better, build stronger relationships and are more likely to recover from setbacks.

-Focus on Gratitude: While it’s true that Valentine’s day is a day for love, it isn’t just for romantic love between couples and lovers. It’s a day to invest in all your relationships, and show gratitude for everyone that is in your life. Take a page out of your elementary school days, and send Valentine’s Day cards to all of your family and friends. Give small gifts of love to your nieces and nephews, or maybe bake cookies for a neighbor. Take time to appreciate the positive aspects of your life, regardless of relationship status. Holidays are great reminders to spend quality time with the people who mean most to us. Love comes in many forms – partners, family, friends – consider celebrating any or all of them this year.

-Reach Out for Support: If you are really struggling this Valentine’s Day, speak to a trusted family member or friend. Schedule an appointment with your therapist in our Orem office, and get the help you need. Utilize hotlines or online resources, such as the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988 for immediate support. Our therapists in Orem believe that by doing these things – setting realistic expectations, acknowledging triggers, practicing self-care, focusing on gratitude, and seeking support when needed, you can navigate Valentine’s Day successfully while prioritizing your mental health and well-being.